I hope you use this first fall-ish weekend to enjoy the outdoors and take in the beauty around you. Happy Saturday!
{fabulous pool of Ellen & Portia via ArchDigest}
September 08, 2012
March 22, 2012
SpaWeek... Here I Come!
We American girls seem to have our spa days with a side order of guilt. I'm not sure why that's the case. Our European counterparts understand that regular renewal and relaxation is the best anti-aging system. We rush, rush rush from one "urgent" affar to the next and "squeeze in" beauty appointments as necessary.
In light of this knowledge I've made it a point to begin to regularly and consistently make time for "me" - sans the guilt. Luckily... those $50 SpaWeek services make this even easier. SpaWeek doesn't officially begin until April 16th... but I'm getting a sneak peek this week of what's in store for all of us.
Sunday morning I'll be headed down to The Spa at The Crescent at Rosewood Crescent Hotel. This is one of Dallas's most incredible hospitality properties, so I'm very excited to indulge in the spa amenities. And let me assure you... I'll soak in every indulgent moment.
What is this opulent spa offering at an attractive $50 price point? Three perfectly pampering services:
- 50 Min Spa Week Body Package Including Organic Hydrating Scrub and Bath
- 50 Min Spa Week Hydrating Facial
- 50 Min Spa Week Signature Pedicure and Paraffin Foot Treatment
Those of you in Dallas should follow suit and book a few appointments at the Crescent. Once I'm buffed an polished to perfection I'll share my experience with you. Those of you elsewhere should pop over to SpaWeek to discover the luxurious spa opportunities in your city. And please... leave the guilt at home. As a woman it is your duty and your right to care for yourself.
February 14, 2012
I Believe in Pink
January 31, 2012
December 04, 2011
Mundane to Marvelous
When I think of successful people in whose footsteps I'd love to follow, those with lifestyle brands are always front of mind. I previously lumped Trina Turk in with successful forces in the fashion industry. Even her line of outdoor fabrics counted as fashion to me, as it seemed a natural extension of her wildly successful prints normally seen on dresses and other items from her apparel line.
But look at her now. Firmly standing with one foot deeply rooted in fashion (including preppy menswear) and the other reaching deeper and deeper into interiors. No longer limited to just pillows, Trina's colorful world now contains candles, stationery, bedding and other household items. What kind, you ask? It might surprise you to discover that she offers such common items such as the dustpan. Leave it to this master of print and pattern to enliven humble household items and elevate them to superstar status. Scissors? Measuring tape? A toolbox? You bet. And they're pretty good looking to boot.
So what about you? What master of their field or mogul do you wish to emulate? Who in your view has blazed a professional trail worthy of admiration?
For me it's those with a brand beneath them. Actual objects with their brand name boldly emblazoned on them. Kelly Wearstler. Trina. Suzanne Kasler. DVF. These are the first names that come to mind, as well as the always on top Barbara Barry. It's about taking the design within and seeing it on shelves and on pretty tables. It's about the realization of a lifelong dream.
And you?
August 29, 2011
The Ultimate Backsplash
Seen on Traditional Home
Note: when I looked at the Artistic Tile site it did not appear that this was the Treble tile. Seems credits were wrong on this image. If you're familiar with the tile, please do pass along the name so I can source it. Thank you!June 23, 2011
Room Service
If you've spent any time in the Greek Isles dotting the Aegean Sea you'll agree that most of the interior design is similar. Breezy sheers, minimalist furnishings and a very white, white, white color palette. Honestly, I get it. The point of the journey is the spectacular view. And one of the thrills of travel abroad is the "sense of place" you get. Rome has its unique architecture, Venice has canals, Barcelona has its Gaudi-rich city vibe. The Greek Isles are recognizable for their whitewashed buildings climbing up steep hills with splashes of cobalt blue roofs peppering the landscape. If you fell from heaven into Santorini you'd likely know it when you opened your eyes. It's part of the charm.
This little jewel of a hotel, however, didn't get the memo on about bleached white sheets and cotton canvas chairs. Oh no. In fact, the Elounda Gulf Villas & Suites in Crete is unabashedly flamboyant in its use of color and opulence. One look at those suites and I am absolutely sold. Ivory bedding, beautifully upholstered furnishings and a rather luxe atmosphere distinguish this from the bulk of other boutique properties I've seen in this region.
We have a special place in our hearts for Greece since we were married there, and we are always looking for new places to discover. There's no way I'm going to Crete without a four night stay here. This is absolutely gorgeous and that unbelievable view will knock your socks off at sunset, let me assure you.
This boutique hotel tops my list for several reasons. In addition to complimentary use of the Elixir Spa (that's right, f-r-e-e), guests in villas enjoy their very own infinity pool with outstanding views of the Mediterranean. Settled. Villa is a must. Opa!
Get the full scoop here on Kiwi Collection.
June 10, 2011
Weekend Wanderlust...
Any guesses about what's on my mind these days? I think not. Notice what you don't see: no laptops, no iphones, to iPads, no televisions, no crowds, no tourists... just unabated bliss.
Here's to us all getting the restoration we need this weekend. Happy lounging!
Featured: W Retreat Koh Samui, The Tides Zihuatanejo, Live Aqua Cancun
June 02, 2011
In moments like this I ask myself... WWBD?
What would Barbara do? Barbara Barry, that is. You see, I have a counter filled with fabric samples and finishes as well as a few thumbed through product catalogs. If this were for you I could easily assign a perfect match 1, 2, 3 easy peasy and we'd be done. It's simple: determine what you want, choose what you love.. badda bing, badda boom. But when the client is me... it's nearly impossible. And I'm a busy wife and mother who loves impractical things. Creamy interiors, plush fabrics, light finishes. Because really, you only live once and today's textiles are actually pretty durable.
This is when you need a mental "in case of emergency, break glass" routine. Fortunately for this scenario I so have such a practice. I ask myself, "What would Barbara do?" and nine times out of ten then answer is crystal clear. If I had to sum up her aesthetic in one word it would be "inviting." Touchable textures, ample seating, generous proportions, navigable spaces. Nothing looks too precious or perfect and everything has the slightest bit of sheen. More importantly, the design isn't so high minded or random that I'm left trying to piece it together in my mind. This isn't to say it isn't thoughtful or predictable.
In the sample above there's a curved sofa, an odd swirl patterned fabric on the Bracelet chair in the foreground and an oddly shaped cocktail ottoman.
Would I choose the same pieces, the same finishes, the same fabrics? Not at all. I'm not interested in copying her room, but I do seek to borrow from the mood she creates in her design. The resulting energy in every Barry space is a bit dreamy. It goes back to that word: inviting. The rooms say, "come on in and stay a while, I've got all the time in the world for you." And isn't that a nice message to send to family, friends... and yourself?
Maybe it's the California sunshine streaming in through the dupioni panels or maybe it's her strict adherence to a subtle color palette (yes to both, I'm sure) her rooms are undeniably welcoming. In the end, she chooses clean lines that don't leave must to translation, and her mix of textures gives an otherwise straightforward room considerable depth. And then there's the art... always the focus.
So I'm breaking the glass today to solve my internal design dilemma. With any luck I'll have my decisions made here soon. Do you have your own mental emergency escape hatch for problem solving? Something that clears things up for you?
June 01, 2011
Sweet Life, Indeed!
Thank you so much, Paloma, for featuring my future home on your blog. This is a composite of the elements I must have in house when I "grow up" (that's entrepreneur-speak for striking billionaire status). Yes, it's in Southern Cali... and you can bet she's one fabulous manse. Take a looksie! For more details, see the posts filed under "things to do before I die" - it spills all the juicy details!
This is an incredible series that Paloma has been running (P, exactly how do you juggle so much at once?) allowing us to peer into the hopes, dreams, plans and aspirations of fellow bloggers. I think it's a wonderful idea and it was a bit more challenging to find photos than I'd imagined. Once you begin plotting your course, however, it's all quite easy.
First rule of success: know what you want. So simple, right? Without a SPECIFIC goal in mind (like this house) you'll never hit your mark. My suggestion? Dream it, find pix of it, write out those goals and purchase the biggest inspiration board you can possibly find - then fill it with images (detailed images) of your "wants" and your "gotta have it or I might just die" elements. Place it over your desk, on your wall or wherever you'll see it every single day. It's not going to do you any favors living behind your closet door. This must invade your space and be in your face daily.
Then look at your to-do list each day... is there anything on there getting you closer to this? Are you aligned with your goals? Check yourself... no point cheating here as you'll only be failing yourself.
For more inspiration, try browsing hooked on houses, Luxist or the Robb Report. Happy plotting!
May 26, 2011
What It Takes to Succeed
Every day I have conversations with friends, colleagues and strangers who share that they dream of this or want that or hope for xyz. The thing is, do they? I'm not seeing much to show that they have a passion for that dream or possess a plan for attainment.
Hope to lose 60 pounds? That Snackwell cookie dangling from your lips while surfing the web isn't helping. Want to live in a mansion that you own free and clear? I hope you're reading this from your smartphone as you rush off to your next big pitch meeting.
The point is, it takes a plan of action and... wait for it... ACTION to get what you want. Success doesn't just happen. You have to know exactly what you want. Me? I want that fat house, free and clear. I want optimal health & fitness. I want a successful design business. Do you know what I do? I get up early, I work out, I hone my craft and I go for it... each and every day. Working on my plan. Pursuing my dream. Chasing it. Crushing it. It takes motion, movement and some sacrifices.
For me that sacrifice is a little sleep, missed BravoTV etc. My TiVo box is filled with "when I have time I'll see it" shows and to be honest, I am having trouble finding time. When I'm not busy working I'm spending quality time with my daughter and my husband and our friends. They take priority over whatever Kelly and Ramona might be doing this season. (Bethenny, however, is in a league of her own. I make time for her. Watching Bethenny Ever After is like watching myself on a reality show. She's a bit much for other people, but I totally relate to her particular brand of crazy. She's a self-made woman. LOVE. HER.)
Am I there yet? Fortunately, no. I have much to do before I "arrive" where I'm headed. I'm enjoying the process of designing it, building it, dreaming it, working for it. And I'm going to get there. It's just how I'm wired. And the process of working for it and seeing it come to fruition by my own actions is readying me to appreciate my vision of success when I achieve it. But step one is having a specific vision of what you want and be willing to actually change your life to pursue it. Without that you're just drifting along hoping. And "hope" may be a pleasant concept, but it isn't getting you closer to that rockin' body next to the infinity pool overlooking the lapping waves. It isn't building your brand, your company or your bank account.
So... how about it? What is it that will compel you to get out of bed early tomorrow? Hire a trainer. Read a book. Set an alarm clock. Make 10 calls you've been putting off. Do what it takes to shake yourself out of that "someday" state and get moving.
May 21, 2011
Drink in Life
This weekend... Read a book. Kiss someone you love. Give as many hugs as you can. Listen to a friend. Face the wind. Enjoy the sunshine. Savor every bite.
May 11, 2011
My Happy Place
Mariah who? Witness the glory that is the private closet of 'Housewife' Lisa Vanderpump. Her home estate at 50 Beverly Park is beyond words. Her closet? Beyond amazing. She's stashing more Chanel into that space than my nearest boutique. Not that she's lacking square footage or assets. Lisa, your dressing space is currently my happy place. As I sit staring at my to-do list and tight schedule i'm dreaming of your baby pink lambskin 2.55, your lime green Birkin (bold choice) and the promise that lies within that shoe department, er... section. Kudos to you, sister. Kudos.
May 03, 2011
Getting a Leg Up
Love this. The shoes. The chair. The silk striped jacket. The scarf (I die for that scarf!). Bliss. Bliss. Bliss.
{via my vibe. my life.}
April 02, 2011
Life's Little Treasures
As I surfed blogs this morning, leading here, there, down this rabbit hole and into the next I stumbled upon Kelly Wearstler's My Vibe, My Life. Hello, happiness. This shot say everything you need to know. It's the full integration of her life. Work & play. Glamour & grime (notice the heels and fabulous bracelet, thankyouverymuch). Family & business. It very much epitomizes my life. I hope this brings a bit of cheer to your Saturday and encourages you. Don't be afraid to mix it up. Don't focus on being so compartmentalized. It's your life. And if it's one incredibly over-blended hard-to-explain-to-family-and-friends-exactly-what-you-do kind of life - you're better for it. I do what I love and it enriches me. Dream it, do it. Don't fill up so much time in between wondering how any why and when.
Life is passing, baby, and you better jump in and get a bit messy. Have more fun. Stop limiting yourself with imaginary (yes, imaginary) boundaries and rules and barriers. They are anathema to creativity and true passionate success. LIVE YOUR LIFE the way you dream of living it. If you're waiting for permission from someone it will never happen. Your mission today? Go play! (thank you, DS for the link!)
November 29, 2010
Limited Edition
This article in the NY Times struck me as oddly familiar. The simple yet elegant space above is a tiny apartment owned by Barbara Roche Fierman, the queen of clean in NYC. She owns New York’s Little Elves, a cleaning service that is a far cry from housekeeping. Her company does the equivalent of detailing your car. While a maid may clean things you see, Barbara's employees specialize in deep cleaning those things you don't ever see like drawer runners. Yes, it's a level of cleanliness for which I hold great appreciation.
The story hit me on several levels. First - look at the pared down color palette in her home. White. White white. Hints of shimmery metal here and there. A chrome chair, a gold frame, an aluminum Apple laptop. But mostly, her space is a study in minimalism. Which doesn't mean it isn't a warm and welcoming space. Her living room? A mere 10 feet wide and virtually colorless - save for her white furnishings and drapes. Yet it's a room that begs to be used for lively conversation.
As a professional whose job it is to enter the homes of some of the city's most well-heeled, Barbara recognizes that "stuff" can own you rather than you owning your belongings. In response to what she sees as almost an illness, she has opted to have as little as possible in her own private retreat. It doesn't mean she's lacking.. it means she has exactly what she needs and no more, no less.
I'm experiencing a similar situation at the moment. I'm in the midst of a move and am employing my patented packing method (okay, not patented... but it should be!) to ensure that unpacking is a snap. The process involves the use of two overriding rules: edit and group. Editing means I don't pack any item whatsoever that isn't useful or beautiful of so supremely meaningful I can live without it. Grouping means that when you pack your drinking glasses, you pack them all in one box and only those things in that box. Each box is then labeled with the room in which it belongs and one or two words identifying what's inside said box. Sound anal retentive? You betcha. Can I unpack an entire house in a day? Yes I can, so long as my movers cooperate by placing the boxes in the correct rooms.
But as I stand here in my home with my spare bedroom partially filled with packed boxes I have discovered something. I don't notice that anything is missing. That means that I can successfully live without any item I've already packed. That's problematic for me. I like living in a super clean home with order and a sense of weightlessness. If I don't actually need the things I've packed already, did I not perform the editing task as well as I'd thought?
To rest my mind I ventured into the room and examined every box and every label. The items are all quality. They just happen to be things I only use occasionally. Things such as the rest of my cookware or my taller drinking glasses. In some cases there's a box packed with decor or another containing seasonal shoes. These aren't being missed because they are for use at another time.
Yet I can't help but feel that life might be easier and fresher if I had less, used less and needed less. "Stuff" is expensive. It costs to buy, it costs to maintain and it costs to move it. Too much "stuff" and you need a larger home just to contain it. I personally feel that nothing should be in storage unless it's a Christmas tree and the associated ornaments. If it's not part of our December decor and it's out in the garage it's clearly not that important. I don't like feeling like my things own me. I like having only things around me that I need and adore. It makes me happy. And I suspect Barbara is quite happy in her own simple yet chic East Village apartment. Her space is small yet it boasts art, fresh flowers, quality furnishings, enviable accessories and an undeniably warm appeal. I suspect she smiles each time she returns home to this well edited space. She probably shakes her head in both wonder and sympathy for those of us with "extra" things.
What's next for me? I do plan to edit again on the unpacking end if necessary. I do not believe I've packed anything fluffy and unnecessary... but if "stuff" has crept into my life that doesn't make me happy or add value to my life, it's going to go to Goodwill like trunk loads of other possessions before it. I'll keep Barbara's elegantly edited space in mind and focus on the only things in my home that really matter at all - the people I love.
September 26, 2010
The Perfect Closet: Part I
As usual, I'm in the midst of a great editorial process of all things I own. For those just tuning in, I'm not a hoarder. If something goes into "storage" it means I have no use for it. You might as well throw it away. Important things are always in sight and always accessible. If I've had it in the closet for 13 months, it's got "outta here" written all over it. Out of sight really is out of mind.
As a major proponent of quality over quantity, I thought I'd share a few personal tips and observations to help fellow shoppers make wiser purchases and more fully enjoy the things already in your possession.
- First: your closet MUST be organized. You'll never know you already have the perfect black pants or cream jacket if it isn't well merchandised. yes, I said merchandised. Make your closet a lovely and beautiful place. I don't care if you only have a tiny cabinet to store your things: it must be orderly and functional. Until it is: you'll never heed my advice and you'll continue wasting precious resources buying "stuff" you don't need.
- Try on everything you own in front of a big mirror. Shoes, bags, dresses, jackets, tops, skirts etc. But do something else first. Try it on and observe how it "feels" before you step in front of the mirror. That Herve Leger dress may look dreamy on, but if you're wildly uncomfortable wearing it, you'll never get much use out of it. Put it in the "eBay/sell/consignment/give to BFF" pile. (more on these piles later...)
- Let's revisit that "mirror moment" above. Remember trying it all on? (Wait...
you haven't done that? Set aside an hour and DO it. It's Sunday. You DO
have time. You deserve this moment. You might even reconnect with a
long lost fave item!) Create three distinct piles:
CRAP: As yourself: why do I even own this? toss it, donate it, give it away... whatever. DO NOT KEEP THIS.
- Mmmm.... nice, but not for me: I eBay or Bonanzle these items, donate others, give some to a BFF
- KEEP: ONLY keep things that are useful, fit well (this is key), fit you RIGHT NOW, you regularly wear (or will, now that you found it), can wear multiple ways or with other things in your closet - or that you simple love.
This is important - I want you to love, love, love everything you own. If you don't love it (even if it fits well) and it doesn't love you back: give it to a better home. "one woman's trash..." I have some pretty things that I just don't love. Other times I adore it, but it really isn't the best item for me and I'm just clinging to it out of guilt. Doesn't matter. If I'm not wearing it and it's taking up space: it goes.
This is no time for sentimentality. Be harsh. be judgmental. Be honest. STOP LETTING YOUR STUFF OWN YOU. (I promise you... it's worth it.) - What comes next is important: a fashion show. Take the things you placed in the love/keep pile. (Place both other piles out of sight and out of mind... deal with appropriately later.) It's time to make some outfits.
- That party dress. What shoes will you wear with it? Don't have any? I assure you that might be why it still has the tags attached.
- That amazing blazer. Create a few outfits with it. Try it on with jeans.. pants... a skirt... over a dress. See how easy that was? You've got some new outfits to reach for this week.
- That lovely silk scarf... what does it match? Let's pair it with a few outfits and start thinking of ways to utilize it more often.
- Why did you "keep" so many black and charcoal pants. Do you really wear them all? If so: Awesome. Sounds as though you've found some items that work well for you. To avoid a fashion rut, focus on dresses and skirts when you shop. If not: edit and keep only the ones that you really, truly adore. Open up your space, your mind and your life for new things.
- Come across an amazing item that you love - and loves you back - with no proper pairings? A beautiful blouse without the right bottom? A fabulous skirt but no shirts or sweaters that look just right? Congratulations: you've discovered a wardrobe void! You now have permission (and a mission) to fill this gap. You actually NEED something and can add it to your wish list.
- Do this again and again until you've compiled an array of terrific outfits and identified a few things you might need or staples that need to be replaced. This, dear readers, is where the magic begins to happen. Stop here and evaluate the list and your pile of awesome items.
This was part one of a multi-post theme. This is a fun and important process. A well edited closet is a the secret of every fashionable woman. Do yourself the favor of setting aside time TODAY to do this. Don't delay - and whatever you do don't go out blowing more Benjamins on things you don't need. Do this and we'll get to the good stuff (yes: shopping) soon enough.
The next post covers putting it all back into the closet... no small feat!
{Images above via ToryBurch.com.}
June 12, 2010
From the Desk Of...
Writing is a wonderful thing. In addition to having the technology of the web at your fingertips, and a seemingly infinite network of blogs and bloggers to connect to - I'm happy to think that so many individuals have discovered the joys of written word. There is a satisfaction in "finding your voice" and crafting your own individual style as an author. How grand is it to sit at your desk, craft your thoughts and hammer them out in pixels for the world to see?
I know many have a love/hate relationship with blogging... but I for one love it. What's not to like? I interact with exciting people every day, post pretty pictures of things I adore and admire, and have an excuse to be alone with my thoughts and opinions.
What many don't consider, however, is the author's pulpit. Where do you do your best writing? Is it a window seat at a busy cafe? Or are you an office blogger, squeezing in posts between meetings and reports? For me, I prefer to write from my home. I love the windows, the sunshine, bare feet (sorry, no Choos allowed on these floors!) and the relaxed mood.
But this doesn't mean I'm satisfied. In fact, in my next home I want a dedicated space specifically carved out for me and my beloved Mac. A space far too feminine for my husband to appreciate. Surely I'll need oversize paned glass windows (french doors are my great hope), a chandelier, the white lacquer table from WS Home I adore so very much, a Bergere chair and a pair of Ghost Chairs nearby. A mirrored console with a fresh bouquet of stargazer lilies, colorful artwork on the walls and a view... oh the view. I'm aiming for a view of a sparkling pool. But mainly I need beams of sunlight and high ceilings. Yes.. this will be my favorite retreat in the home. A space that screams "venti girl" all the way.
But I'm curious... where do you do your best writing?
June 03, 2010
A Very Special Tribute
Every once in a while I come across a shoe that possesses so many ideal qualities it can only be described as perfection. These (almost completely sold out!) YSL Nude Tribute sandals are my idea of the quintessential shoe. Sexy, stylish and perfectly designed. Avid fans swear by the comfort of the design. Those of us needing the extra height (me, me, me!) love how the platform - and especially this nude shade - elongate the leg to near Gisele proportions. So long as the platform is en vogue, you might be able to call this shoe 'classic' (please, dear Shoe Gods... grant us permission to don the platform for many years to come). At least that's what I tell myself when I'm drooling at it and it's eqally jawdropping price tag.
I'll share a little secret... it's my birthday today (yay!) and I'd rather have this pretty little pair of shoes than any other sweet confection in the world! YSL sales are everywhere, so if you see this beauty (or her equally fabulous black sister), give me a shout! And yes, I'm serious about that. I'm looking everywhere for this baby.
But my real special tribute today is to you, dear readers. That's right, gorgeous... YOU! Thank you for another year of amazing comments, heartfelt emails and growing friendships. Blogging, tweeting and facebooking have enriched my life in ways I never expected, and I look forward to what the future holds for all of us. If you're willing to jump in head first and ride the waves being onlline is a terrific experience. My Venti wish for 2010? To meet as many of my online friends (ahem... that would be you) as possible and deepen my connections with all the rest.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just get together for a bit of shoe shopping and lunch at Neiman's? Maybe start the day with a power yoga class and pedicures to prepare us for the onslaught of strappy designer sandals - that ust happen to be on sale? *sigh* To me, that's a perfect day. Here's to you, stylish friends. Here's to you! Mmmmmmwah!
XOXO,
Franki
May 15, 2010
May 07, 2010
Affirmative Action
There are times in life when you can just tell that you're "in the zone" or on the right path. You're feeling good, you're doing well and all is right with the world. You are certain that this is the life you were meant to be living right here, right now. In my experience, these moments are fleeting. So the question is... how do we keep that state going?
I read about a very Zen approach to life once. I believe it was in a magazine I read on a flight. The contents of the article at the time seemed simple yet profound: spend a week saying yes to every opportunity that came your way. Yes, I'll join you for lunch today. Yes, I'll try that new Iced Mocha Half-Caf Grande Frappuccino. Yes, I'd like to try snorkeling. Yes, I'll take on that new project.
Hollywood types clearly read the same airline magazines I do, as by now you know 2008's Yes Man demonstrated the life-changing possibilities of this experiment. Jim Carrey's experience may have been dramatic... but don't you think saying yes for a week in your own life could yield some interesting results?
What if you indeed agreed to any and every invitation that was extended? (Barring, of course, invites for rides in suspicious white vans from strangers). Would your life change? Would your calendar be more full? Would you start to realize all of the resistance you put up from those around you? I suspect that if you would try this with me for one week you would indeed discover there's a different life experience out there waiting for you.
Life is calling... will you pick up and say hello? I urge you to pick up and see what she has to offer!
{lovely image above is not my own: These adorable little yummies were shot by Swedish photographer Therese Aldgård and styled by Swedish prop chick Lisa Edsälv. Found on Love the Cool}
May 06, 2010
Rise to the Occasion
This morning as I took a walk I was thinking about personal standards. What's completely acceptable to one person may seem outrageous to another. In life, we typically stay within the range of what we feel is "acceptable" to us. You stay pretty close to the weight and level of fitness you feel meets your image of yourself... your standards. You date, marry and befriend people you feel are like you or "on your level." Subconsciously you live at the income level or professional level that you think you "deserve" in life. The image in your mind you have of yourself and your life is indeed the life you live. If you don't believe that, you're living in blissful denial.
So... what happens when what you want, isn't what you currently have? You must change your mind. You must alter what you find acceptable. You must raise your standards. That's right... change your mind and you'll change your reality. Stick to it... decide exactly what you want to achieve or experience... determine WHY you need or want that to be your reality... and then figure out what you need to do to get there. But this is no time for autopilot. You have to take consistent action - or at least have constant focus on the goal - to get there.
The good news is this: once you raise your standards the rest is easy. For example, I would never, ever cheat on my spouse. Never have.. never will. It's unacceptable to me. So is a filthy house or an out of shape body. These images just don't fit the image of myself I have in my mind. They are beneath my personal standards. It's just something I don't ever think about because it isn't part of my personal mental image of myself. Those beliefs I hold, those self portraits in my mind cause me on a consistent basis to focus on my husband workout and clean my house. Silly examples.. but you get my point. My standards for myself cause me to do certain things but not others. If I raise my standards I'll improve those situations. Make sense?
The same could be said of any element in life. Are you behaving in a way you don't like? Are you living beneath your personal capabilities or potential? Are you coasting along living a life someone else has mapped out for you? Are you limiting your own potential? This isn't about others around you. This is about you... you as an individual. Your friends may have different standards. Your peers might not be destined for the same greatness you'll achieve. Your job isn't to "fit in" with those around you... your obligation to yourself and to the world is to be the best that YOU can be.
So... are you doing that right now? Are you living up to your own ideal? Are you focused on the right things? Are you working towards your ultimate oals in life? If not... why? Maybe... just maybe it's time for you to raise your standards.
{love the image? Make it yours at Vivre!}
May 02, 2010
Without Purpose, There is no Passion (Part Deux)
A wonderful twitter friend reminded me of this quote yesterday "Without Passion there is no Purpose." To her, I owe this post. Lately I've noticed a lack of... something in my life. Looking around I could not determine what was lacking. "Things" were not going to fill the void. My calendar was filled with activities. It wasn't work. It wasn't play. I felt stumped. Somehow 2010 had arrives, we'd accomplished some very heft personal milestones in our home and have big (big!) plans for the coming year and those ahead. And yet... I was painfully aware that I was missing something enormous from my life.
Then yesterday at 7:45 am, @AyeshaJ shot me this tweet. It was a quote from a previous post of mine. I was busy getting ready to go to a friend's house for breakfast. While Ayesha's notes had fueled my morning, the rest of the day's activities combined would drastically alter my life path. What I'd thought would be a quiet breakfast among friends turned out to be a mid-size gathering of powerful women. I don't mean captains of industry or bodybuilders (although some of those were in he mix)... I mean women truly in touch with themselves, their relationships and their purpose. The conversation over breakfast and the bonding that occurred was the best two hours I've invested in some time.
As the day unfolded and the sun continued to shine (literally and figuratively) I began to realize I'd shifted into somewhat of an autopilot rhythm. That's not like me. I'm a firm believer in MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. In my mind, you must MUST design the life you want. Success, happiness, good health, abundance and wealth of spirit do not just happen. You aim for it, you plan for it, you pray in thanks for it, and you make it happen. Expect good things and they will indeed manifest. But go on autopilot and "hope things pan out" is not the key to a good life. And certainly not a fulfilling one.
So after an unusual night of restless sleep, I feel more renewed and focused than I've felt in months. It's time I started swallowing my own medicine. The phrase "Rise to the occasion" has been on my mind for months. Months. Well, life... I am rising to the occasion.Thank you for the smack on the bum.
How do you go about change? 1) decide what you want 2) determine what it will take to get there 3) take small steps beginning IMMEDIATELY to get you closer to those goals 4) GO!
So I absolutely know what I want. I've written it down (a number of times) in a journal. But I'm going to write it down again. In even greater detail. I'm going to sit outside at the park while my daughter plays and write in my lovely pink leather bound planer (which I've been saving for an occasion such as this!) and write it out. I need to see it... in detail...again. For step two I already know many tiny changes to make in my daly life that will bring about tremendous change and instant gratification. It will bring me closer to those I love and build a better life for our family and friends.
If you're sitting there wanting more, realize that help is not on the way. You've got to design the life you want and go get it. Remember, faith without works is pointless. You've got to get yourself into action to life a fulfilling life. Don't fall prey to letting the days slip by without being memorable. This is NOT a dress rehearsal, readers. It's May.... what do you need to accomplish by 2011?
Start by writing out your ultimate life goals. Go way out there and dream it...fearlessly. Write as if there are no limits whatsoever. Then take a step back and read it with fresh eyes. What's the disparity between that life and the one you're living? how do you reconcile that? Make major goals that you need to reach for, but offer yourself micro-goals as well. I like to give myself three mini-goals each day. It helps me feel a grand sense of accomplishment. I write them down on a fresh sheet of paper in my binder and cross them out as I complete them. Remember.. these can be small. The point is to develop momentum. Get moving.
So... as I sip my late morning cup of coffee I want to challenge you to join me on yet another Venti Challenge. If you missed the last one, you may want to read some of these posts to catch up.
Call it my annual mental spring cleaning... but it's time. Design the life you want. Now.
{creative art from my online boutique, the venti cafe}
April 09, 2010
Spring Cleaning
Where did I come across this enchanting vignette? None other than the amazing new Elle Decor site. It's the private home of Choo founder Tamara Mellon. But of course! Here's the scoop on the room.
At the London apartment of Jimmy Choo founder Tamara Mellon, decorator Martyn Lawrence-Bullard mixed a vintage Jansen desk, a 1960s Eames chair upholstered in hot-pink leather, and a Warhol print of Grace Kelly.
While I'm not keen on the floor, I'd be hard pressed to voice that complaint if this were indeed my private workspace. The symmetry of the desk lamps the generous crown molding... it's an amazing space. One worthy of a world-famous shoe designer.
If you think that's great.. take a look at her master bedroom. I die!
{glamorous spaces, the work of top designer Martyn Lawrence Bullard}
February 25, 2010
New Heights
This photo renders me nearly speechless. Yes, it's been expertly designed and decorated Kendall WIlkinson (see the full Decorati spread). But click on this bad boy and check out those unobstructed views. At first glance it looked like AThens. I imagined some lucky expat enjoying the fruits of their labor in a flat sipping rich, Greek cafe each morning overlooking the bay. As it turns out, this is a home in Pacific Heights, California. It's no wonder real estate in Cali is the impossible "get." With natural beauty like that I can see why.
If you can possibly forget about the views, I challenge you to look at the ceiling. Imagine unwinding at the end of a taxing day in this room? You rest your purse on the mirrored entry table (which exists in my imagination at the entrance of this home), you take off your shoes and kick back on this sectional with the latest Town & Country issue. As you gaze out at the fantastic view, you take a moment to admire your detailed ceiling. And in that moment, you are fully aware of your charmed life experience.
The room above led me to wonder... was the awe-inspiring effect of this room the handiwork of a talented designer? Or was the "gasp effect" of this space the result of the stunning vistas and/or the homeowner's blessed real estate decision. You know the old adage: location, location, location.
To answer this question I poked around her portfolio and was awestruck. Kendall makes even windowless rooms seem luminous and uplifting. It takes a talented eye to achieve the refined looks she's delivering to clients. Decorati has a fun little interview with her this month. She divulges a few signature finishing touches: the white orchid, the plush throw. Who doesn't enjoy a bit of warmth in a room? These are universally appealing. But I particularly enjoyed her response to the question about inspiration:
What do you do, or where do you go, for inspiration?
"Inspiration abounds in the most unexpected places sometimes. Whether it’s rummaging through an old childhood jewelry box, or taking my boys for a hike, I am always surprised at the ideas that come at me!
But when I am purposefully seeking to be inspired, I’ll often turn to my love of fashion, French fashion in particular to see how hemlines may translate into drapery hems!
My travels to Paris also still impact my aesthetic as well, it is a place I am forever inspired by."
Her love of travel and her globetrotting adventures clearly come through in her designs. Personally I feel a space often looks uninformed if the designer hasn't had many life experiences. There's a vast gap between those who have read about historic design periods in textbooks, and those who have seen European palaces in person, walked ancient cobblestone streets and breathed in the air on streets where locals live in faraway lands. Your experience is deepened, your references are informed and your eye adjusts just slightly to the varied tastes of there cultures.
If you have any desire to be great in a creative field I urge you to travel as much as you possibly can to as many places as possible. Most importantly, don't stop moving. Don't stop observing, don't stop craving "the new" and the different. It feeds your mind and restores your soul. I truly feel creative people like myself have a hunger in their souls for new experiences. It's a deep, constant hunger that is never sated. Left unattended, it can be destructive. But if fed and honored it will fuel your career and your passion and be your greatest ally in life. I assure you, the more you roam the better you'll be at your craft and the happier you'll be in life.
As for this talented designer, I have one thing to say: Careful, Kendall.. your Paris is showing!
February 12, 2010
Mixing up a Batch of Fabulous
Susan Serra Kitchen Designer extraordinaire, asked me recently to describe my ideal kitchen. I can tell you in a single word what it is not: dark. I crave sunlight. The ideal kitchen for me would serve up generous portions of sunlight reflecting off of light, bright surfaces.
My dream kitchen is creamy white. Not stark white. Not yellow. Not antiqued beige. Although professional designers are yawning over blindfolded requests for granite counter tops, I still love them. Why? Because they allow an organic, chaotic visual element into a space that is otherwise tightly controlled and perfect. Granite is filled with unusual patterns shapes and forms that are beyond our control. And like a diamond, you get to choose the slab that you love the most. This feature alone adds a little thrill to the process for me. Before it is polished to perfection and outfitted with double ogee edges, one gets to choose their slab from the pack. I love the thrill of the hunt, and since we're no longer chasing down prey for our survival, little adventures like this seem to satisfy my primal hunting urges. Sorry but it's true.
The above images are from Kraftmaid. This space comes very close to perfection for me. What would I change? A few things. I'd like a more dramatic range hood. Copper or stainless steel. (I'm thinking copper to bring out the reddish brown interiors of the lit cabinets... but I do love the idea of a grand stainless hood). The chandelier should be larger. The ceiling should be higher. I'd like a thicker slab of granite on the counters. And frankly, I'd be inclined to put granite on the island as well. I know we're in an era of mix and match and all that "accidental perfection" business... but I love the durability and resilience of granite.
But let's get to the business of the view. What I really demand from my dream kitchen is a killer view. I want to open up a wall of doors (dual sets of French doors or an entire moving wall) and see the expanse of my well-manicured back yard beyond a sparkling blue pool. Ideally, kitchen should be integrated with the outdoors as much as possible. I want to see the reflection of rippling water on my towering ceilings. I want to hear trickling water through the open windows. I want plenty of room for friends and family in the room with me - but a natural flow to the action outside. The idea is to have an easy transition from the fridge to the fiesta. Know what I mean? After all, the kitchen is the social hub of the home, so in my next home I want a jewel box of a kitchen that opens to an amazing patio and pool. It's all about entertainment!
Susan... that may not be specifics about range sizes, brands and square footage... but in many ways what I described is even more important for my vision. My ideal kitchen shimmers, it shines, it has a boastful chandelier, glossy granite counter tops, expansive spaces, plenty of barstool seating for visiting friends, massive windows, warm sunlight and plenty of stainless appliances. And most importantly, a gathering place for fun!
December 30, 2009
Desperate Housewife
It's happening again... I'm in the midst of another great slim down. This isn't about weight or calories. It's about consumption. I physically want to own less, and I want the things I do own to be outstanding. In essence, I'm breaking up with many of my possessions.
This is a process I've been going through for the past few years, and this time I'm ready to cut a bit deeper. How freeing will it be to only own things which I absolutely adore? For me, this process focuses almost exclusively on my wardrobe, as it's far easier to eliminate non-essential housewares. I pare down our kitchen cabinets easily, keeping only the best and brightest. When it comes to sequined clutches and sweaters I have a much more difficult time letting go.
Maybe it's the approaching new year, but I find that I am deeply motivated and inspired. Motivated by the need for order. Inspired by our very own Travel Concierge, Anne, who has sold everything she owned - ridiculously chic San Francisco home included - to travel exotic locales with her husband. Yes... I'm not kidding. An interview is coming soon, in the meantime she sent me this excellent article on letting go of your things.
What do these celebrity closets have to do with the great breakup of 2010? Everything. Take a look at Kimora's closet (well, one tiny corner of her enormous closet). It gives me a headache just looking at it. She is clearly owned by her possessions. I'm certain she has items in her closet she's barely aware of. Bags given to her by companies, jeans she's never worn (and won't). And yet...she needs the things to feel "right" about life. I couldn't possibly live with a closet so packed to the gills. Eva on the other hand... I adore her well edited closet. It appears that she has a carefully selected group of precious things that she adores. I imagine she knows every dress, every shoe, every bag and can tell you when she purchased it and what it looks fabulous with. It looks like a happy, controlled useful space. If these staged photos are any indication of the reality beneath, Eva owns her things. Her things don't own her. John Trosko - famed organizer of Los Angeles - tends to agree with me.
But don't be fooled... she owns hundreds of jeans and dozens of stilettos. Notice that everything has a place, though. Eva's racks aren't overflowing. She has perfectly matched hangers and seems to have the jeans categorized for easy dressing. Here's a woman who knows how to work her wardrobe for maximum effect. She likely doesn't accidentally buy the same jeans over and over again. I'm not saying I don't want a fully functional wardrobe... I simply don't want any items in the closet(s) or drawers that I don't love. If it doesn't fit right, isn't flattering on, isn't high quality, isn't useful - it goes. See ya! What remains must be useful, flattering, well tailored and essential. The rest must go. So with my sorting containers marked "eBay," "charity," and "trash" I begin the editorial process. I'm diving in and not looking back. After all... a girl needs more room for those things which she absolutely does love. Anyone care to join me in the great purge of 2010?
November 10, 2009
Globetrotters
Running a business is demanding... what with never ending meetings and projects. If you look at the calendar it's always full... but I have to admit to myself that's really our fault. It's time we blocked out some time for ourselves and sat in wonder of the world around us. Gained a bit of perspective. It's been a terrific year and it's time we sat back and reflected upon the wonder of life.
If I'm being completely honest I'll need to admit that my criteria for a vacation increases each time we delay the trip. So while I once might have been satisfied with a charming boutique hotel, now I'm in need of the luxe appointments and guaranteed fabulousness that only a St. Regis resort or Ritz Carlton can deliver. This particular resort (of the St. Regis variety) is on picturesque Kauai located in Hanalei Bay. If the stunning views don't woo you, maybe the chic interiors designed by David Easton will seduce your senses.
As for me, I think waking up to the glorious views - and not the glow of my laptop - will do wonders for restoring my soul. Well, that and a few seaweed wraps and hot stone massages overlooking the crashing waves.
I'm setting a plan in motion today: plan it, book it, do it. If there's something you've been putting off, wake out of that coma and get moving. Time waits for no man.
November 05, 2009
Animal Attraction
Have you ever seen an item and wondered how on earth you can find yourself attracted to it? Such is the case with this faux fur Juicy Couture puffer vest. Let's back up a moment...when did I start trolling the Juicy merchandise lineup? This is now the second or third item I've pointed out to you lately that I like. Scratch that... this will be the second or third item that I want to own. But moving on... a puffer vest? It's not like I live in Montana where it snows six feet on my birthday ( in June). I'm a warmer temps girl with every intention of staying that way. So aside from a few fleeting fantasies of Zurich or Geneva, you won't find me on a snowy drift anytime soon.
No...instead I can already see myself in line at Starbucks on a slightly chilly day (say... 50 degrees with no snowflake in sight) with my skinny jeans, boots and this (somehow) irresistable vest. Hooded. Fur-lined. Puffy. Vest. I can't explain it. But I've got to have it. I'm craving it. What's worse is that I've seen these people in line. Dressed as if it's an ice storm outside when the rest of us are enjoying unseasonably warm temps. Unless they're about to board a private jet for the Alps (and, no doubt some of them may well be), these fashionistas owe us an explanation and maybe an apology. Am I really ready to become one of them? Doesn't a puffy vest of this sort almost require you to wear UGGS or at least some form of fur lined boot? It seems to me that the two crimes usually go hand in hand. Can one really commit just one offense without the other following quickly behind? Is this puffy vest the slippery slope that will lead me to a closet of velour track suits and a flats? No... no... there shall be no UGGS in my closet nor any sign of a warmup suit - but this vest must be mine. It must. Inexplicably, it must be mine.
For all of our (okay, my) enlightened moments, it's times like this I have to admit that there are primal forces at work beneath the surface. If this silly urge of mine is any indication, we're not so different from our animals friends after all.
If you're behind me in line for coffee anytime soon on a pleasant fall day, please resist the urge to giggle at my puffy vest. After all, no animals were harmed in the creation. Just a tiny bit of my dignity, that's all.
Authored by designer Franki Durbin.
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